01我想更懂你
10 月 28 日下午，万源协和第 19 期家校共育工作坊温情开展。本次活动创新性引入一人一故事即兴戏剧疗愈形式，以「我想更懂你」为核心主题，特邀上海知名创意戏剧团体童林剧团全程带领。
On the afternoon of October 28, the 19th SUIS Campus Home-School Co-Workshop was held warmly. Adopting the innovative healing format of Playback Theatre, the event centered on the theme I Want to Understand You Better, with Tonglin Theatre, a well known Shanghai creative theatre group, hosting the whole session.
活动面向小学、初中、高中全学段家长开放，在工作日下午，家长们全部自愿主动报名参与。大家放下忙碌、带着真诚，走进一场柔软、真实、有温度的家庭教育对话。
Open to parents across primary, middle and high school divisions on a weekday afternoon, the workshop drew fully voluntary sign-ups. Setting aside their busy schedules, parents joined in sincerity for a gentle, authentic and heartfelt dialogue on family education.
趣味破冰｜松弛开场，卸下育儿疲惫
活动伊始，轻松有趣的抓娃娃破冰游戏拉开序幕。
The session kicked off with a fun claw-machine-themed ice-breaker game.
在欢声笑语中，家长们放下拘谨、放松身心，暂时脱离育儿压力与生活琐碎。温柔松弛的氛围，也为接下来真诚的故事分享、沉浸式戏剧体验，搭建了包容、安全、温暖的场域。
Amid laughter, parents let go of inhibitions and stepped away momentarily from parenting stress and daily chores. The soft, laid-back atmosphere created an inclusive, safe and warm space for sincere story-sharing and immersive theatre experiences that followed.
破冰结束后，剧团领航员为大家细致介绍一人一故事剧场的核心理念。 不同于传统讲座的单向输出，一人一故事戏剧最大的魅力在于：不评判、不说教、不指导，只倾听、只承接、只看见，让每一位家长的育儿心声，都被温柔接纳。
After the ice-breaker, the theatre facilitator explained the core philosophy of Playback Theatre. Unlike oneway traditional lectures, its greatest charm lies in non-judgment, no preaching and no ready-made advice. It simply listens, receives and acknowledges, so every parent’s inner thoughts on parenting are gently accepted.
故事流动｜真实育儿日常 ｜ 看见不同家庭的成长课题
在演员的沉浸式示范与氛围带动下，家长们纷纷打开内心，主动分享自己真实的育儿经历、困惑与成长感悟，每一段故事都质朴动人、充满思考。
Guided by actors’ immersive demonstration, parents opened up and voluntarily shared genuine parenting experiences, dilemmas and insights. Every story was heartfelt, touching and thought-provoking.
🔹 高觉察妈妈：目送青春期孩子成长，学会 “同步成长”
🔹 Self-aware Mother: Witnessing Teenage Growth and Learning to Grow Alongside Children
一位养育三位孩子、陪伴青春期篮球运动员女儿追梦的妈妈，带来了极具治愈力的分享。她坦言，自己全身心投入孩子的成长，眼里满满都是孩子，非常享受陪伴女儿训练、比赛、追梦的每一段过程。
A mother of three, who supports her teenage basketball-player daughter in pursuing her dream, delivered a healing sharing. She devoted herself whole-heartedly to her children’s growth and cherished every moment accompanying her daughter through training, matches and dream-chasing.
但随着女儿步入青春期，她清晰觉察到：孩子正在独立长大，开始拥有更多朋友、更私密的自我空间。孩子的世界不再只围绕父母，而妈妈的世界曾经几乎只围绕孩子。
As her daughter entered adolescence, she clearly noticed her child growing into independence, with more friends and private personal space. Her daughter’s world no longer revolved only around parents, while the mother’s world once centered almost entirely on her child.
偶尔的距离感，会让她心生小小的失落，但情绪稳定、极具自我觉察力的她，完全接纳孩子的成长变化。她深刻感悟：孩子在大步向前，父母不能停在原地。父母的成长速度、爱孩子的方式，必须跟上孩子的成长节奏。温柔的自省、通透的心态，让全场家长深受启发。
Occasional emotional distance brought slight loss, yet this emotionally stable and self-aware mother fully accepted these changes. She reflected profoundly: as children stride forward, parents cannot stand still. Parents need to keep pace with their children in personal development and ways of loving them. Her gentle self-reflection and open-minded outlook inspired all parents present.
🔹 细心又困惑的爸爸：接纳孩子天性，与 “不勇敢” 的孩子和解
🔹 Thoughtful yet Perplexed Father: Accepting Children’s Innate Temperament and Reconciling with “Less-Bold” Traits
一位爸爸分享了自己的育儿困惑：他一直期待孩子勇敢、果断、坚强，但孩子天性胆小、敏感、内敛。面对孩子的怯懦，他常常感到不解与无奈，不知道如何正确养育、引导孩子，在期待与现实之间陷入育儿迷茫。在演员的演绎中，这位爸爸看到了每一个孩子都有自己的天性和天赋，胆小也可以发展成细致谨慎的优点，勇敢也可能变成鲁莽和冲动。只有顺应孩子的天性，我们才能帮助他去成为他自己。
A father shared his parenting puzzle: he hoped his child would be brave, decisive and strong-willed, yet the child was naturally timid, sensitive and reserved. Faced with his child’s timidity, he felt confused and helpless, lost between his expectations and reality. Through actors’ performance, he realized every child possesses unique inborn traits and gifts. Timidity can turn into careful prudence, while recklessness may hide behind over-boldness. Only by respecting children’s nature can we help them become their authentic selves.
🔹 多子女妈妈：在孩子冲突中，学习温柔平衡与情绪安放
🔹Mother of Multiple Children: Learning Gentle Balance and Emotional Regulation amid Sibling Conflicts
拥有两个孩子的妈妈，道出了无数多子女家庭的真实困境：两个孩子性格、需求截然不同，常常意见相悖、发生争执。面对孩子们各自的诉求，妈妈时常陷入纠结，不知道如何平衡爱与规则。孩子是1.0版本，我们就得至少修炼到2.0版本，不能被孩子的情绪带跑了。我们能稳定情绪，坚持原则就是给他们最好的榜样示范。
A mother of two voiced the real-life struggle of many multi-child families: her two children had totally different personalities and needs, and often argued. Torn between their respective demands, she struggled to balance affection and boundaries. If kids are Version 1.0, parents need to upgrade themselves to at least Version 2.0. We should not get swept away by children’s emotions. Staying emotionally steady and upholding principles sets the best example for them.
🔹 低年级家长：早早觉察，温柔培养孩子的独立力量
🔹Lower-grade Parent: Early Awareness and Gentle Cultivation of Children’s Independence
本次分享中，一位低年级家长的育儿理念格外通透。孩子在校遇到问题时常习惯性求助家长、不敢主动沟通。她从未包办代替，也从未直接替孩子解决问题，而是长期坚持温柔鼓励：“这件事你可以自己试试，你可以自己跟老师沟通。”她早已深刻明白：父母的保护伞，无法庇护孩子一生。她主动放手、持续赋能，刻意锻炼孩子独立面对问题、解决问题的能力。本次活动中，她主动分享自己的育儿心得，与在场家长交流成长。每一段平凡真实的家庭故事，都是一次温暖的照见。家长们在他人的经历中看见自己、反思自己、更新自己。
Among all sharings, one lower-grade parent offered remarkably insightful parenting perspectives.When her child ran into troubles at school, the kid tended to turn to parents instead of communicating proactively. Rather than solving problems for the child, she consistently offered gentle encouragement: “You can give this a try on your own; you may talk to the teacher yourself.” She deeply understood that parental protection cannot shelter children for their whole lives.She chose to step back and empower her child, intentionally building the child’s ability to face and resolve problems independently. At the workshop, she shared her parenting insights for peer exchange. Every ordinary yet genuine family story served as warm reflection. Parents saw, re-examined and renewed themselves through others’ experiences.
少年发声｜双向共情｜最触动人心的双向理解
本场活动最大的惊喜与感动，来自一位主动到场观摩、自愿上台分享的高中女生。
The biggest surprise and touching moment came from a highschool girl who attended voluntarily and stepped forward to share her story.
她勇敢讲述了自己多年学习古筝的成长心路： 幼时初学，每一点进步都会收获家人满满的鼓励与赞美；随着考级难度提升、付出越来越多，家人的认可慢慢变少，一切努力被视作理所当然。
She bravely recounted her years learning the guzheng. In her early days, every small progress won abundant praise from her family. Yet as exam levels grew harder and she devoted more effort, recognition faded, and her hard work was taken for granted.
孩子真诚地说：大人看不见我背后的坚持，看不见我的压力与努力。
She spoke sincerely: Adults fail to notice my persistence, pressure and hard work behind the scenes.
童林剧团的演员们随即为她演绎了这段少年心事，细腻、真实的表演直击人心，让在场家长瞬间读懂：孩子需要的从来不止陪伴，更是被看见、被肯定、被理解。
Actors from Tonglin Theatre then interpreted this teenage inner world. Their delicate, authentic performance struck a chord, helping parents instantly realize: children need more than mere company, they long to be seen, affirmed and understood.
暖心彩蛋｜少年手绘心意 ｜双向治愈的家校温度
活动尾声迎来全场最温柔的彩蛋时刻。我校高中心理社团社长、即兴画师何天翼同学，为每一位真诚分享故事的家长，亲手绘制专属画作。每一幅作品独一无二，标注家长姓名、手写专属祝福。突如其来的温柔心意，让家长倍感惊喜和温暖。纯粹的少年善意，也让整场活动的疗愈感、仪式感、幸福感拉满，家长现场反馈满意度极高。
The most tender surprise unfolded toward the end of the event.He Tianyi, president of the highschool psychology club and an impromptu artist at SUIS campus, hand-painted exclusive artworks for every parent who shared their stories. Each unique piece bore the parent’s name and personal hand-written wishes.This unexpected thoughtful gesture delighted and warmed the parents. The teenager’s pure kindness amplified the workshop’s healing power, sense of ritual and joy, earning highly positive on-site feedback from participating parents.
活动结语｜戏剧为媒 ｜让家校共育温柔持续生长
本次一人一故事即兴戏剧家校工作坊，是我校本学期艺术疗愈家校共育的温暖开篇。戏剧，让情绪得以流动； 倾听，让亲子得以靠近； 共情，让教育得以温柔。在不评判的场域里，家长安放了育儿焦虑，更新了养育认知，学会以更松弛、更接纳的姿态，看见孩子、理解孩子、陪伴孩子。
This Playback Theatre home-school workshop marked a heart-warming start to this semester’s art-healing homeschool programs at SUIS campus.Theatre lets emotions flow; Listening brings parents and children closer; Empathy makes education gentle. Within this non-judgmental space, parents eased parenting anxieties, refreshed their mindsets, and learned to perceive, understand and accompany their children in a more relaxed and accepting manner.
未来，我校小学、初中、高中三部心理组 将持续深耕即兴戏剧、艺术疗愈的育人模式， 持续招募感兴趣的家长伙伴，组建成长社群， 持续探索温柔、专业、创新的家校共育新方式。
Moving forward, the psychology teams across SUIS campus Primary, Middle and High School divisions will further develop educational models of playback theatre and art-based healing. We will keep recruiting interested parents to form growth communities and explore gentle, professional and innovative approaches for homeschool partnership.
愿每一个家庭： 少一点评判，多一点倾听； 少一点焦虑，多一点接纳。家校同心，温柔共育， 让每一段亲子关系，都在理解中双向成长。
May every family embrace: Less judgment, more listening; Less anxiety, more acceptance.Home and school stand united for nurturing. May every parent-child relationship achieve mutual growth rooted in understanding.
02家长心声
Mother of Tommy
今天的活动形式很新颖，通过聆听其他家长的故事，也能感受到不同年龄段、不同家庭结构下，育儿存在的共性话题，对我而言是非常好的学习。尤其感谢最后那位可爱、优秀的高中生，她送给每一位分享者的小礼物，以画面与金句呈现感悟，简直是画龙点睛之笔，充满智慧启发。
Today’s workshop adopted an innovative format. Listening to other parents’ stories helped me recognize common parenting themes across different age groups and family structures, which was a valuable learning experience. Special thanks go to the lovely outstanding high-school student. Her hand-drawn gifts with insightful quotes perfectly rounded off the event and offered great inspiration.
Mother of Bernard
第一次参加“我想更懂你”家校工作坊，演员们的表演代入感很强，看着表演，脑海中不断浮现出和孩子相处的画面，整场体验让人十分触动、格外感动。我数次动容落泪。通过一人一故事剧场，我对亲子关系有了全新的感悟。很多时候我们急于说教，却忘了静下心读懂孩子。未来我也会试着调整自己，用心倾听，与孩子双向成长。我的孩子目前就读七年级，看到这位如此优秀的高中学姐，我更加确信：一所好的学校，是孩子成长路上最珍贵的滋养与财富。非常感谢学校和老师们用心筹备这场特色十足、意义深远的活动。
This was my first time joining the I Want to Understand You Better workshop. The actors performed with strong immersion. Watching the show brought back many scenes from my interactions with my child and moved me to tears several times. Playback Theatre gave me brand-new perspectives on parent-child bonds. Too often we rush to lecture instead of pausing to truly understand our kids. I plan to adjust myself, listen whole-heartedly and grow together with my child. My son is in Grade 7. Seeing this excellent high-school senior reinforces my belief that a good school is invaluable nourishment for children’s growth. I sincerely thank the school and teachers for organizing this distinctive and meaningful event.
Mother of Dannie-Winston
很感恩能参加今天的活动。“一人一故事”的剧场形式，让我有机会从不同角度看见孩子，也看见真实的自己。透过其他家庭的故事，我照见了自己育儿路上的过往与未来。最后收到高中部同学的专属礼物，格外惊喜，她写下的每一句感悟都极具洞察、直击人心。感谢学校和老师们的用心组织，身为万源协和的家长，我倍感荣幸，也期待未来能更多参与这类温暖又治愈的活动！
I feel grateful for attending today’s activity. Playback Theatre allowed me to view my child and my true self from new angles. Stories shared by other families reflected my past and future parenting journeys. I was happily surprised to receive the personalized gift from the highschool student. Every one of her insights struck home. As a parent of SUIS campus, I feel honored. I look forward to joining more such warm, healing events in the future.
Mother of Summer
“作为家长，我先来卷自己。”这是我参加本次一人一故事工作坊的初心。我始终希望经营更好的亲子关系，初为人母，我还有太多需要学习的地方。本次活动不仅帮我解开了自身的育儿困惑，找到了与孩子相处的平衡点，也让我在其他家长的分享、演员生动且富有哲理的演绎中，对育儿问题有了更深刻的思考与印象。
“爱是一种别离”
“他早就已经比我们更出色了”
“你不回应我真的没关系”
原来，光是遇见，便是最好的礼物。
“As parents, let us push ourselves first.” That was why I signed up for this Playback Theatre workshop. I hope to build a better parentchild relationship. As a new mother, I still have much to learn. This workshop resolved my parenting confusion and helped me find balance in getting along with my child. Stories from fellow parents and actors’ vivid, philosophical performances deepened my reflections on parenting.
“To love is to let go.”
“They have already outshone us.”
“It is alright if you do not respond to me.”
Simply meeting one another is already a precious gift.
Mother of Rossie
这场活动后劲十足，值得慢慢沉淀、细细消化。我们透过不同的故事镜像，照见了亲子关系中潜藏的缝隙与问题。裂痕，向来都是光照进来的地方。感谢每一位真诚分享故事的家长，也感谢领航员、演员精准的捕捉与回应，感谢配乐老师、十二年级学姐细腻的感知力与极具温度的艺术创作。
This workshop leaves much to reflect on. Through these story mirrors, we spotted hidden frictions within parentchild relationships. Cracks are where light gets in. My gratitude goes to every parent who shared openly, the facilitator and actors for their perceptive responses, as well as the music teacher and Grade 12 student for their sensitive, heartfelt artistic creation.
Mother of Maggie
作为一年级学生家长，参与本次“我想更懂你”家校共育工作坊，我感触颇深，也对亲子关系有了全新的觉察。很多时候，我们总想为孩子撑起一把保护伞，替他挡住所有风雨。但今天我深深体悟：好的家庭教育，始于用心聆听孩子的心声，学着真正读懂孩子。教育不是一味庇护，而是适时放手、赋能成长，让孩子拥有直面风雨、独立解决问题的勇气，成长为眼界更宽、力量更强的人。非常感谢各位老师的用心组织，这场活动意义非凡。
As a parent of a Grade 1 student, I gained profound new awareness of parentchild relationships at this workshop. We often want to hold an umbrella to shield our children from all hardships. Today I realized good family education starts with listening attentively to children’s inner voices. Education means not overprotecting, but knowing when to step back and empower kids to face difficulties and solve problems independently, so they can grow into broadminded, capable individuals. Thank all teachers for organizing this remarkable event.
Mother of Luna
参与完今天的活动，内心满是感动，由衷感谢老师们为孩子成长的用心与付出。每一位家长的分享都让我深有共鸣，原来育儿路上，所有家长都有着相似的困惑与难题。最让我惊喜的是这位十二年级的学姐，也让我真切地看到了万源学子的优秀风采。衷心感谢本次活动所有用心付出的老师、同学与童林剧团的演员们。
I left today’s workshop filled with gratitude. I sincerely appreciate teachers’ devotion to children’s growth. Every parent’s sharing resonated with me — we all face similar parenting challenges. The Grade 12 senior student amazed me and showed me the outstanding quality of SUIS campus students. My heartfelt thanks go to all devoted teachers, students and performers from Tonglin Theatre.
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